Is it ADHD or is it a Dysregulated Nervous System?

Everywhere you fucking look whether it’s Instagram, Facebook, or TikTok it feels like everyone suddenly has ADHD.

Can't sit still? ADHD.

Forget what you were saying mid-sentence? ADHD.

Have 37 tabs open, 5 half-finished projects, and no idea where your keys are? Definitely ADHD.

PST, guess what?

Just because you can't sit still, finish a task, or keep your brain from spiraling doesn’t automatically mean you have ADHD.

Maybe you do.

But maybe—just maybe—you’ve been living in a body that’s been stuck in survival mode for years.

And social media isn’t helping.

Stop letting Instagram diagnose your ish because it just might be lying to you.

ADHD is real, valid, and deeply impacts how someone moves through life. But here’s the problem:

A dysregulated nervous system can look a hell of a lot like ADHD.

And thanks to social media, way too many people are self-diagnosing without looking deeper at what’s actually happening inside their bodies. Without actually reflecting on their habits. People see a post, relate, crack a joke and say this is me.

But is it actually ADHD?

Or have you Pavlov-dogged yourself into needing constant stimulation just to feel okay?

Most people can’t sit the fuck down and just be. They can sit still. They can’t stand silence.

They crave constant fucking distraction like it’s crack filled oxygen.

People are chasing dopamine hits like trained lab rats cause they have been trained. They have Pavlov-dogged themselves into a state where their brains need constant stimulation just to feel a baseline okay. When they stop…. When there is no screen, no noise, no chaos…. Then the shit they have been avoiding starts to surface. Old trauma. Big feelers. Unprocessed grief. Shit that they never game themselves to feel. They start reflecting on their ish and realizing how uncomfortable that is. Because the body still associates these feelers with danger or discomfort or insecurities, the nervous says “NOPE. Fuck that shit. Not today.” And then you have the automatic reach for the phone, a snack, another distractive task, more doom scroll.

Guess what, duder…

That is not ADHD.

That is the nervous system screaming,

“I don’t feel safe slowing down.”

ADHD and trauma-related dysregulation share a LOT of overlapping symptoms—impulsivity, distractibility, emotional intensity, restlessness, and task paralysis.

But they come from very different places:

See the overlap? This is why so many people think, “Oh my god, this is me. I MUST have ADHD.”

But for some, it’s not ADHD—it’s unhealed trauma, chronic stress, poor sleep, nutritional imbalance, and a nervous system stuck in survival mode.

As much as social media likes to share relatable symptoms, it rarely discusses influencing factors. Whether or not you have ADHD, a persons fucking diet could be making it worse. When blood sugar is constantly spiking and crashing, when a person runs solely on carbs and caffeine (ahem, looking at myself) with zero protein or healthy fats, our beautiful brain noodles cannot regulate themselves.

Low blood sugar triggers cortisol and adrenalin. The same chemicals that fuel anxiety and hypervigilance. That jittery, “can’t focus” energy? That isn’t always ADHD. That is your body waiving the bullshit flag.

Other ways diet impacts your ability to focus and regulate:

Ultra-processed foods → Worsen inflammation and mess with neurotransmitters

Caffeine overload → Feels like focus at first but sends your nervous system into chaos

Skipping meals → Leads to brain fog, irritability, and emotional reactivity

Nutrient deficiencies (like magnesium, omega-3s, zinc) → Directly affect dopamine and serotonin balance

So yeah, before diagnosing yourself off a TikTok checklist, maybe check if you’re living on iced coffee and vibes. Your brain needs fuel, not just labels.

Outside of a shit diet, the world that we live in rewards chaos and dysregulation. Hustle harder, do more, sleep less. Keep fucking grinding. Be fucking productive at all costs because for some reason, we correlate our value to that bullshittery. (Yeah, that truth bomb is coming soon.) We are conditioned to constantly perform and when the body finally says, “I can’t keep up,” we slap on a diagnosis and scroll harder.

People don’t know how to be human beings anymore vs. human doings.

Even if the trauma and the chaos that originally dysregulated a person’s nervous system isn’t present anymore, the body doesn’t always know that. It has gotten so used to the same bullshit pattern that is keeps running with the habits.

Why?

Because the more a person responds in a specified way, the more it becomes habitual. Not just mentally, but neurologically, physiologically, and behaviorally. The brain is trying to be efficient. So when a person keeps reacting from fight, flight, freeze, or fawn, the brain wires those reactions as the default. The nervous system learns to live in that shit loop cause it is easy. It is programmed to do it. Even when it doesn’t have to. That is where dysregulation becomes a learned behavior.

People learn:

Silence is dangerous.

Rest is lazy.

Mistake overstimulation for productivity.

Feel "off" when not stressed—and sabotage peace because it feels unfamiliar.

So they recreate the chaos. Chase distractions. Interrupt themselves before the quiet gets too loud. Scroll. Multitask. Avoid the stillness.

Not because they are bad at focus.

But because focus feels unsafe.

Think of it as water flowing. The more water flows a specified route, the deeper the grove becomes, the faster the water goes from point A to B without anything inhibiting the flow.

What most people don’t realize is that the body learns everything we do repeatedly-especially the shit we do under stress.

This is how people are able to “train” themselves into nervous system dysregulation, even in adulthood, by living in a state of chronic overstimulation. Diet, environment, lack of boundaries, perfectionism, emotional suppression… all of it wires your brain to operate in survival mode.

BUUTTTT….

Just as a nervous system can be trained to associate noise, chaos, and distraction with “normal,” it can be retrained to experience regulation, stillness, and safety without freaking the fuck out.

And that, my friend, is the real fucking work.

Not just coping.

Not just slapping on a diagnosis.

Not just using that diagnosis as an excuse for fuckery.

But rewiring the baseline.

Try standing in line without reaching for your phone. Drive without listening to music or a podcast. Pause, breathe.

Does this resonate?

Ask Yourself This…

Do you feel unsafe when you rest or slow down?

Do you hyperfocus in emergencies but forget to eat for 8 hours?

Do your “ADHD symptoms” get worse around certain people or environments?

Do my “symptoms” get worse with stress, exhaustion, or skipped meals?

Do I constantly need background noise because silence feels threatening?

Do I hyperfocus in chaos but crash when things get calm?

Do I only feel “productive” when I’m overstimulated?

Did I grow up walking on eggshells, constantly scanning the room to stay safe?

If yes… you may not need meds.

Maybe it isn’t ADHD

You may need nervous system regulation.

ADHD is real. Trauma is real. Nervous system dysregulation is real.

But slapping a label on something your body is screaming for you to process won’t fix it. We heal when we regulate. We heal when we learn safety. We heal when we stop feeding chaos and start listening to what our bodies actually need.

Because you’re not broken.

You’re fucking exhausted.

And that changes everything.

If this hit you in the gut, there’s probably a reason.

You don’t have to keep running on overstimulation and survival mode. In my 1:1 program, Unbound, we dig deep into why your nervous system is wired the way it is—and we rebuild safety from the inside out.

You’ll learn how to regulate your body, rewrite old stories, and finally stop living in a constant state of emotional whiplash.

If you're ready to stop surviving and start actually living:

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Let’s get your nervous system unstuck.